In life we go through the waves. The ups and downs. How do you pull yourself out of the dumps when it keeps sinking you further? You think of your dreams and think “I want that so bad” but how can you attain it? This is the reason we aren’t achieving our dreams.
Even with a great day, week or month, there’s got to be the inevitable feeling of “wow, this is too good to be true” and if you’re like me, you know something is bound to creep up and knock you over.
Coming from 2020, how can this year not be better. We have so much to be grateful if we are here in 2021. Meaning we made it through loss. We made it through a virus. We are breathing. We can be thankful that we are just here, regardless of what we did or didn’t accomplish..
Because it’s a scary time, it’s easy for you to lose hope and put a stop to your dreams. You think, “might as well put it off”. I think over the year after my own experiences and seeing friends, it’s been a pattern to “hold off for now”.
Honestly. What I’m about to say is almost an insult to my husband but here I go. My husband is multi-passionate. I like to say it how I see it, but he is athletic, helpful, kind, caring and more than anything he knows how to prioritize.
Now Are we really “wives” if we don’t complain about our significant others?? No. Here’s a quick story.. my husband has a work van that is only supposed to be used for work. It seriously has a tracker in it too.
Well one day I needed something picked up (a shelf) from offer up. I asked my husband if it didn’t inconvenience him, if he wouldn’t mind as it was too large for my small vehicle. He quickly without hesitating said he couldn’t use the company van, even if it’s on the way.
It’s true he shouldn’t use the company van without permission. My problem solver brain thinks ‘why can’t you just subtract the time it took to stop from the time you would have made it home’. Regardless, it was a hard no from him.
I kind of understand but when I see a good deal I like to swipe it. Needless to say, my hubby said something like “we’ll have to borrow a truck from someone and go get it later this weekend”.
I could multiply this story over with the amount of things I like to buy for a bargain. So my husband is really into golfing right now. He’s amazing at it. I am attracted to his passion and consistency. He wants to take golf lessons, he’s sold old clubs to afford his new ones. He is religious when it comes to new videos on YouTube to learn about new techniques.. the whole shebang.
It reminds me a lot of how he and I were in our honeymoon stage for so long. He learned of not studied my likes my dislikes. Memorized my families names like it was an exam so he could have “engaging conversations” about them with me to show he was listening. I mean I was a priority.
It’s really a strength we all compel but is often termed as a flaw if it’s serving someone else more than yourself. So, if I were a mean wife I could say “you don’t spend enough time with me, all you want to do is golf”. I won’t do that. But what I do communicate is that I’m aware of him and his passions. I acknowledge them and I like when he brags to me about something he feels accomplished in.
Long story to the point, there was a day he was almost home and he said, “sorry babe I’m going to be late. I just got a call that my club is in (that he ordered to the store a traffic-hour in the direction he just came from). I want to go get it now.”
If you’re reading carefully, you know that he couldn’t possibly use the company van for personal purposes… it’s not that he can’t use it, it’s that he won’t. And I want to emphasize this.
A lot of times we make excuses for why we don’t get things done the epitome of our existence and the existence of stress is that we’re a slave to these “to do lists” and when asked we say, ba-dum-chhh! “We didn’t have time.”
Agree with me for a sec? We as mommas, tell me you don’t have dishes, laundry or chores piled up somewhere and we don’t have time for ALL of them because we won’t make the time for it. It’s not a bad thing, we just need to understand the difference. We don’t? Or we won’t?
I don’t catch up with the laundry often not because I don’t have time because I won’t make time, as I am prioritizing for work or playing with my toddler. I prioritize what I think is most important at the time and while I know the laundry needs to get done I know it can wait. It doesn’t make the chore less daunting.
So, all of this goes to say, we have things on our lists that we eventually want to get to, but we aren’t prioritizing. To my husband, golfing is a priority in his life. Not a bookshelf. It’s not that we don’t have time it’a that we won’t make that time for things we don’t feel are a priority.
Believe me, we have homeowner projects and when I talk to family who ask when they will be completed, I push them off and say when “I have time”. When your dreams are a priority to you, they will start to make their way I to your life. Those goals you have set for yourself will be when you make time for them.
I hope you’re able to see that and not take it as criticism as we are all in that boat. It took me forever to write this post. It was up there but it took me a while to type it out. We can learn a lot from my husband and that is everything wins if it s a priority. Be kind to yourself! Bye for now. Xoxo